Ian Gershman , 51,
Male seeking Female,
More About MeI’m 50. I have an MBA and an MA. I manage one of the largest drug treatment programs in the state. I’m a VP but titles are crap and they mean nothing. What matters is who you are not who you say you are. I’m very good at my work. I say that simply not with arrogance I know and I affirm myself. This is where it has to come from. At the same time it’s nice to be touched, to be told you look good, and to be validated for who you are. These things are also important. Connection, partnership, a give and take. nI talk fast. I speak with my hands. Intelligence is what interests me. nTravel and experiences of different things feeds a person’s soul. For me three times across the US. Lived in England for 10 years. Italy, motorcycled through Holland, Belgium, Luxembourg; slept on a beach in France, Lanzarote, Greece and Africa twice. But it’s the journey, not the destination yes?!That’s what matters – getting there not the arriving. nA first flirt with a degree in Theater Arts I love film and theater. Music – played for a long time and actually just started writing and playing again after a long…rest. Love the ballet and all dance. Food – ok I am a foodie. Absolutely love fine dining – one of the most sensual experiences there is especially when shared. But I can eat kebabs on the street as well. nnWhat do I dream of? Running with the bulls in Pamplona. Standing at base camp on Everest. Surfing Banzai Beach. Looking in her eyes and feeling home. Knowing she feels it too.nHere is what I really believe. Life is now. In this moment. In this one breath. On this breath because that's really all there is. Laugh as deeply as you can. This is what keeps people together. Love like there is no tomorrow and drink wine .....well there is no qualifier needed for that. nnThe beach is ....magic. I live ten minutes from it. I always think that no matter what my day has been like I can go to the beach, people clearing out but a few die hards remain. Wrapped in a blanket. Reading. Watching the surfer. Watching the power of the ocean and everything somehow seems to come into perspective where I am one moment small and insignificant as are my problems and then in the next I am a part of everything. The beach. Yes. Yes?nSo I am divorced now after married a long time. A lot of passion and desire unrequited and without a partner to shower it upon for a long time. So I explored other passions. Baking – trained as a pastry chef, playing and writing music locally in coffee houses and bars. But I’d like to share and shower that passion and desire on someone now. Something long term? Not sure yet. Not a bed hopper. That doesn’t interest me. I did all that years ago – I have no wild oats left to sew. But have a busy life between work and my boys I want to find some time to be good to me and share it with someone who can appreciate and would enjoy being appreciated while still being whole and having their life too. No strings? No. Not now but who knows what the future might hold. nI hope that sparks some interest. Because it’s the spark that starts the fire.
Political AffiliationModerate liberal
Who I Would Like to MeetFunny, very smart, a little bit crazy, up for things!! Someone who takes care of themselves and realizes that its not vain to want to look good for your partner.
Where You Were RaisedPhilly Suburbs
Others NoticeDark Kind eyes
Favorite FoodPanna Cotta
Favorite PlacesGreece, Italy. Southwest US. Restaurants would include Buddakan, Gramercy Tavern, Per Se, MOMA
Friday or Saturday Nights IPlaying music in a coffee house or hangin with my sons
Life GoalsTo find someone to be head over heals toe curling in love with. To make and sell a hit record. To be a good father.